Quarrel & 3 Magic Words

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“They quarrel — it is always so in marriage — sometimes even plates fly. However, we must not become sad because of this; the human condition is like this. And the secret is that love is stronger from the moment there is quarreling, so I always advise spouses: Never end a day when you quarreled without making peace. Always! And it is not necessary to call the United Nations to come to one’s home to make peace. A small gesture, a caress, a hello is sufficient! And until tomorrow -– and tomorrow one begins again. And this is life; it must be carried forward thus, carried forward with the courage of wanting to live it together. And this is great, it is beautiful! Married life is a most beautiful thing and we must guard it always, protect the children.”

Three “magic words” that “must be in the home”:

“please, thank you, sorry [permesso, grazie, scusa] 

Sorry is the most difficult one to say.

“We repeat them all together!” the Holy Father said enthusiastically.

He elaborated: “Please, so as not to be invasive in the life of the spouse. Please, but what does this seem to you? Please, allow me.

“Thank you: to thank one’s spouse: thank you for what you did for me, thank you for this. The beauty of rendering thanks!

“And as we all make mistakes, the other word which is a bit difficult to say, but which must be said: sorry.

“Please, thank you, sorry. With these three words, with the prayer of the husband for his wife and vice versa, with making peace always before the day ends, the marriage will go forward — the three magical words, prayer and always making peace.”

Source : Holy Father Pope Francis’ Talk  to Couple